We are still waiting to hear back from the doctor. I just ran into an old friend of mine. Her husband, a successful architect, had a stroke this summer. She was tearfully explaining the ups and downs they are going through. I felt so sad for them put also this overwhelming guilt.
She told me to take care of my husband so that nothing bad happens too him. She doesn’t know. She has know idea that I too share her pain. I also have a sick husband. I feel like we could support each other in our grief but I promised to keep my husband’s cancer a secret.
In that moment, I thought about how brave she is. It takes bravery to share one’s sorrow and struggles. It is brave to admit that you are not ok. Sometimes I wish my husband would be brave enough to admit that he has cancer. I’m not even sure he has admitted to himself. Maybe our real problem is we are living in denial.
Secret Cancer 
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